10 Signs He Might Be Cheating or Just a Plain Waste of Time

Alright, friends, lets take a break from story time for a bit. They say hindsight is 20/20, meaning you see clearly the mistakes you've made after it's too late. At least this is my interpretation of this common saying. With that said, here are my top 10 signs he might be cheating or at the very least, a d-bag. These signs come from my personal stash of red flags whichi I should have seen, but being caught up in the moment I didn't.

10-His reason for not taking you back to his place is that he has gay roommates who party and do drugs, and while he has nothing against being gay, he just doesn't want to be in that environment. Turns out he really means "I live with my pregnant girlfriend, so clearly, we can't go back to my place.

9-You find a text message on his phone, from his ex, stating "I liked last night." This is what it is, he spent last night with his ex-girlfriend, not at home like he said.

8-When you ask him directly if he is cheating, instead of lying, he simply says nothing. An omission is a lie and not answering is more of an answer than he could ever give.

7-When he's on the phone he asks you to be quiet or only takes phone calls where you can't hear them, for example: the bathroom, or outside.

6-His reason as to why girls are sending him half naked pictures of themselves is because the girl is crazy. No, the girl is not crazy, he has done something to make the girl feel like this is something he wants to see. While I understand that some girls really are crazy enough to send unsolicited photos of their boobies and hoo-ha's, it's rare. Generally these photos are requested from your boyfriend. I know this from being both the sender and the girlfriend whose boyfriend is the receiver. P.S. When the photos are saved to his phone he clearly wanted them, if he didn't want them, he'd have deleted the text message instead of permanently saving it to his phone.

5-It was once said to me that "pieces of shit hang out with pieces of shit." This is almost always true. If the guy you're suddenly ga-ga over has friends who are less than stellar, chances are your new "it" guy is too. You hang with people who are like you, who do things that you do. If the guy is so upstanding and fantastic he would have better friends.

4-He won't stop talking about his ex or forcing you to sit through a slideshow of their old vacation photos, then wondering why you don't want to vaction in that same place. I don't care how much the converstaion is about what a crazy bitch she is, the thing is, if he's talking about her than she's still on his mind and he's not ready to start a new relationship. This guy might be a great catch further down the line, but right now he's clearly still hung up on her, for whatever reason. You don't sit and talk about people you aren't thinking about so if "her" name is constantly coming up it might be best to cut your loses and move on.

3-He only calls you late at night. This should be obvious, but as I said, when you're in the moment and you think you've found the one you'll make various excuses why this is ok. The truth is, it's not ok if the only time you hear from him is late at night or when he's intoxicated. If he really liked you, he'd want to see you in the daylight when he's sober.

2-Your friend calls you from the bar to tell you she just saw your man all up on some other girl. Or in my case, just saw your man with his fingers up the front of her dress. Yes, he's going to deny it and tell you your friend is insane, but unless you know that your friend is actually insane, chances are good this really happened.

1-The number one and often most over looked sign, your gut instinct. We've all been there, met a guy who makes you forget your first name, but the whole time something just doesn't feel right. It's easy to make excuses, to not want to admit that you were wrong, to not want to feel like you've picked "Mr. F'd everyone in the Treasure Valley" AGAIN, but hey shit happens. Sadly, it happens to some of us more than others, but trust me, it's better to get out early than waste your time with someone who doesn't appreciate you. There are plenty of fish in the sea, as they say, so don't be afraid to throw the small fish back and wait for the catch of the day.

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